A man who had a vasectomy is sleeping with his cousin

Three years ago, Reddit had a post about a cousin couple who wanted to marry, but lived in a state where it is not legal:

I’ve (42M) been sleeping with my cousin (38F) for the last seven months.

Three years ago my wife and son passed away in an accident. My cousin who lived with her mom stayed with me for a few months to help me out.

During that time nothing explicit happened but we found ourselves snuggling while watching movies and one night we fell asleep on the couch together. We both sort of just laughed it off.

About eight months ago my maternal aunt passed away and I offered to help my cousin sale her mom’s house for her to stay with me for awhile.

We quickly fell into a home routine and found a lot of joy with each other. One night we had the right mix of edibles, wine, and Sci-Fi shows and ended up kissing and making out like teenagers and slept in the same bed that night.

The next day we said we shouldn’t peruse this and just leave it alone. We had sex that night and almost every night since then.

I have a vasectomy and neither of us have a desire at our ages to have babies and the only family alive other than us is her father who hasn’t been involved with her life since she was a teen. We are looking at actually moving and getting married; we do wonder if this ‘secret’ will be an issue in the long run.

Edit: to answer a few questions we are first cousins — our moms we’re sisters Legality — speaking with two lawyers our state wouldn’t allow marriage; however since we are not direct ancestors or descendants of each other and well past the age of consent the sex is not illegal (laws are weird)

My cousin and I are in love and see a future together

Three years ago, Reddit had a post about dating cousins who were deciding whether to marry:

He is my first paternal cousin 26m, I am 23f. We come from Catholic, Filipino families.

We were like childhood friends. He used to come over all the time, sleepover and we'd play Nintendo64 and talk all night long. We talked about everything and anything. We would see each other at family parties and always had a soft spot for each other. The younger cousins would always tease and joke and ask us if we were boyfriend and girlfriend and say "you guys are going to get married". Kids are silly, but I can't say their joking was far off from the truth, admittedly.

Flash forward to the present, him and I have always been close, and we talked and texted outside of family gatherings. We both have grown up a lot and have lived our lives and graduated from good universities and are thriving in our careers. When the pandemic hit, I moved home and me and him once again re-connected as we always do. However this time, it was different... we fell in love. Not overnight, but it happened and we've been dating seriously for about a year now and envision ourselves together. Our core values and all our beliefs are so aligned. We understand each other and we always try, we have grown together and we are so confident that we can handle anything that comes are way...